@SarahTheBeloved When I come across offensive or crude language, especially from a woman, I usually mention kindly that it's not attractive or persuasive when using that kind of language, and end with a "keep it civil" type comment. I am as gentle as possible. That way if they react harshly, it's on them and it shows what kind of person they are. Sometimes they respond positively. That's all I can do. Don't give up trying to make the world better, one little word at a time.