@kdhartfiel respectfully, I have to question the assertion that God prefers we learn apart from “the fire”. Even Jesus was subjected to suffering and it was part of Gods plan (Hebrews 5:8 - Jesus learned obedience through the things he suffered).
If we say that only those who are thick-headed have to endure persecution - and that God would prefer they learn another way, it dismisses a huge, faithful part of the body of Christ.
@katharos most of the body of Messiah expects to go through bad stuff. They have a dirty filter on how they see God. God wants to love on us and bless us more than we think he does. He is so much better than we think he is.
We can't control the outside forces that come against us, but we can have authority over our own soul areas and circumstances in many ways